I really try to do everything I can for other people and to treat them the way I want to be treated but it seems like I'm not doing a good job or something. A couple weeks ago my cousin's bf who means a lot to me just all of a sudden stopped talking to me, he was like family and then he said the other day that I was an annoying twat and I'm self absorbed. idk what I'm doing wrong. I always think about others before me and I just don't know what to do, because my cousin is barely talking to me since he said that, so it makes me think she thinks that too or something. It's like I'm losing people that mean the most to me. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. What can I do? I don't want to lose them but I don't know what to change because I'm just trying to do the best things for other people, what's so bad about putting others before myself? I'm just so confused.

Jay says... sounds like a hard time in your life.  I know these things hurrt.  I know it just doesn't seem fair.  I also know people do stupid things in their youth, take on new friends, abandon old ones, can be extremely rude and discouraging for reasons even they are not so aware of.  Life at a young age can be very hard because, frankly, you are surrounded by other young people doing stupid things.  Your counsins BF obviously is not your friend otherwise he would not have stopped talking to you.  It does not sound like he is worth the emotional energy.  Perhaps learn a little from what he said, think about if there is any truth to it and ask yourself if you talk about yourself more than ask about other people.  Maybe there is a kernel of truth for you to learn from.  But in the end, he sounds like an ass.  Just move on and find someone better.  Use the opportunity to learn and grow but do not dwell there and think it is the end of all things.  Just take the lesson, learn from it, and move to the next friend.